Why Being Patient Sometimes Feels Like Losing

 

Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying every word in your head?

You stayed calm. You chose silence.
But deep down... it stings.

Maybe someone made a sly comment about your modesty.
Mocked your choice to avoid gossip.
Or rolled their eyes when you passed on something that didn’t align with your faith.

You smiled.
Held your peace.
Tried to remember that Allah sees.

But later, when you were alone, that moment played on repeat.
And you wondered:
“Did I do the right thing by staying quiet?”

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You're not the only one.

Even the Prophet ﷺ—our beloved, our guide, the most dignified of all humans—was mocked.

They said he was mad. (Astagfirullah!)
Delusional.
That his message made no sense.

And how did Allah respond?

“By the favor of your Lord, you are not mad… and indeed, you are of great moral character.”
(Surah Al-Qalam, 68:2–4)

SubhanAllah.
Allah didn’t ask him to defend himself.
He reminded him who he was—with gentleness, not fire.

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Silence can be sabr in action.

There’s strength in silence—not when it comes from fear, but from faith.

Because Allah knows when your heart aches but your tongue chooses grace.
He sees when you could clap back—but don’t.
And He knows that adab takes more strength than anger.

So don’t let those moments of restraint feel like failure.
They’re a reflection of your inner character—just like the Prophet ﷺ was praised for his.

“Silence in pain can be sabr in motion. And sabr never goes unseen.”

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Barakah Pick – Reclaim Your Heart

If you’ve ever felt emotionally bruised after moments like these, Reclaim Your Heart by Yasmin Mogahed might be the comfort you didn’t know you needed.

It’s raw, healing, and gently reminds you that peace doesn’t come from the world—it comes from letting go, and returning to Allah.

You’ll find it in my Barakah Picks Library here:
→ Explore the Book

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Want to go deeper into the full tafseer?

This post was inspired by verses 1–7 of Surah Al-Qalam.
If you’d love to dive deeper into how Allah defended the Prophet ﷺ, and what it teaches us about our own silent battles

→ Read the Full Reflection Post Here

With du’as, love, and quiet strength,
Umi

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